The Top 5 Reasons You Have Haters If You Aren’t a Jerk

Everyone has haters. You don’t have to be a celebrity, a politician, or a total jerk in order for people to dislike you. It’s unfortunate, but it’s reality. Ultimately all it boils down to is the fact that you are something they are not, and they can’t stand it. Jealousy is an ugly trait, but it’s something we all feel. Some more often and more powerful than others.
Here are some reasons that people might hate you if you’re not total garbage.

1. You’re Happy

As odd as it sounds, if you’re genuinely happy with yourself and your life, there are going to be some people who hate you. This is because they aren’t happy with themselves and want to feel validated by knowing someone else dislikes their life as much as they do. Instead of attempting to make themselves happy or build a life that they can be proud of, they’re going to make themselves feel better by trying to tear you down. You don’t have to be a big name or have a lot of money, you just have to be comfortable where you are. Don’t let it get to you, there are some people who just feed on negativity.

2. You’re Successful

This doesn’t have to mean that you’re Donald Trump-rich, you are just an ordinary guy who is reaching for the stars to achieve your dreams. Those with no ambition will hate you, will try to make you feel like a failure or not good enough, or will try to down-play your success. They thrive on negativity, hate, and discouraging others so they can bring you down to their level. You could be donating your time at homeless shelters, giving every extra dime you have to help single mothers, take in foster pets, and read to elderly people at a nursing home, but none of that matters to them. They hate you because you are doing what they cannot or will not do. Keep running after your dreams and don’t let them get you down.

3. You’re Nice

Being kind is free, it’s easy, and it can change a person’s day, week, or life. That being said, exhibiting kindness doesn’t always pay. As odd as it sounds people can and will hate you for being nice. Perhaps it’s because they’re in a bad spot in their life and are finding it particularly difficult to give to others what they can’t even give to themselves. This is totally understandable. No one person can be nice and sweet and generous all the time, and we’re all allowed to have our off days. However, if you spend most of your time not being a total douche to random people, this will irk people for some ungodly reason. Don’t mind them, they’re just dealing with terminally high levels of salt.

4. You’re Smarter

I have personally found that people will get extremely upset with you if you’re smarter than them. You don’t even need a college degree, you just need to be better educated or more well-informed than they are and it sends them into a bizarre spiral of needless rage. Even if you’re not a jerk about it, they will find some way to try to undermine you or make you question yourself. They will try to convince you or others that you are stupid or that they have some secret knowledge that you don’t. If you express this on social media, you’ll find yourself unfriended or blocked because they simply can’t handle being around someone who may or may not know more than they do about any given topic. It’s sad, but it happens.

5. You Have More Friends

For some reason there is a strange stigma around having a lot of friends. If you are surrounded by a large group of people who love and care about you, suddenly you’re “starved for attention” or “don’t have any really good friends.” There is this idea out there that you’re supposed to keep your circle of friends small because for some reason they’re supposed to be more loyal, but that’s simply not true. If you’re a good person, you’re going to attract good people who want to hang around you. It’s a stupid reason for someone to hate you, and perhaps they are secretly jealous that they don’t have the kind of friendships you have. Whatever the reason it, you can be sure that if you have a lot of friends, you will also have some people who dislike you because of it.

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